So, last week, Facebook automatically logged me out. Upon trying to log back in, I get a notification saying that they needed to confirm my identity.
For those that are unaware, Facebook has started doling out these messages to people suspected of being fake. This has caused a LOT of grief in that trans folks, drag queens, and even Native Americans were forced to change their names, as FB claimed their name isn't real enough.
I thought I'd managed to escape it. Nope. So they said if I needed to, I could wait a week to confirm or update. I chose to wait so I could make sure I had plenty of ID ready to send them.
Here's the thing that bothers me, however.
One page, where I submit my documents, says that I MUST provide ID that has my authentic name as well as my birth name, which is impossible as I cannot use my "authentic name" — the name I go by IRL to everyone but family, and the name I've been using for YEARS online as well; the very name I plan on, one day, changing to legally — for anything that they requested as proof, most of which would require legal forms.
But then they have a page entitled
What Types of ID Does Facebook Accept? that has 3 options. The very last option, option 3, says very plainly: "
If you don’t have an ID that shows your authentic name as well as your photo or date of birth, you can provide two forms of ID from Option 2 above, and then provide a government ID that includes a date of birth or photo that matches the information on your profile. We won't add the name or other information from the government ID to your account."
My State-issued ID (which has my photo and my date of birth, both of which will match my FB profile), my social security number, my debit/credit bank card, my donor ID card, and my library card are all things that I submitted as proof, and are things that required I use my birth name at sign up. Hell, there was pretty much
nothing in any of the choices that I could have used my authentic name on.
So, I think, okay I'm in the clear. I can take photos of all of those things and send them in when the time comes.
Well, a week passes, and yet again, I am forcefully logged out. Upon trying to sign in again (it doesn't take you directly to these pages, either, mind you; you must first try logging in), I'm taken to the Confirm or Update Name page. So, I follow the steps, submit my three-photos-worth of ID, and...I wait. 8 hours go by and I
finally get a response.
"We're sorry, but we cannot confirm your identity. Please provide an accurate type of ID that has your real name on it," is basically what they told me.
I cannot respond to them without adding a photo, so I dig out the last piece of ID I have left: my birth certificate.
TO go with it, I ask them why it is that even though I did precisely as Option 3 says, they still cannot confirm my identity. Is it the photo? It's a really shitty photo of me, I'll admit, and I look different without glasses. Should I take a picture of myself without my glasses (except with long hair, because it's not that short anymore) and send it in? What am I supposed to do? I HAVE NOTHING THAT TELLS YOU MY NAME IS DRUSTON BLACK.
NOTHING. Because that is not my birth name and every piece of ID I own required a legal name, and I haven't legally changed my name yet. Why does one page say this is good enough, but you're saying it's not? I don't fucking understand what you people want from me.
Here's the thing. I do, in some capacity, consider myself trans. I mean, I'll never start the transitioning process, because it'll never be good enough for me and I don't have the money for it. Maybe if science ever makes it possible to create a full,
working set of male reproductive organs and genitals, I'd go for it, but for now, the least I'd do is a breast reduction, which is what I aim for some day anyway. Point is, my real name is
incredibly female and I fucking hate it. Having to sign it and say it out loud makes me feel ill. I want nothing to do with it anymore.
I feel like Facebook is trying to purposefully fuck a lot of people over. They want to "protect" the people on our friends list, saying that if someone like me doesn't use my birth/legal name, we're deceiving our friends because said friends don't know who we are. All of my friends know who I am. Every one of them. I even have 2 family members on there, and they also know who I am.
Facebook has no right to tell me what is and isn't my name. I'm fucking tired of their bullshit. I'm going to wind up getting my profile permanently deleted (it's disabled right now, and all of my messages to people have been replaced with "This message has been removed because it is abusive or spam") or, at worst, they're going to forcefully change my name from Druston Black, to the birth name I hate with a burning passion. That isn't right and it isn't fair.
And now I have to wait until Monday to hear anything back from them... *sigh*